Beliefs Holding You Back From Finding Love

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Love seems to be all that’s on people’s minds.

I grab lunch with my friends, and they jump at talking about their latest Tinder date. I sit down with my parents, and they look at me with worrying eyes and ask, “so, are you dating anyone?”

And I get it. Love is magical; it’s one of the greatest things we can experience as human beings.

But what I hear with a lot of people — and I know because I used to be one of them — is they’re holding themselves back.

Love doesn’t have to be equivalent to chasing an elusive unicorn. It doesn’t have to feel like riding a rollercoaster at a janky county fair.

It can be easier. You just have to stop getting in your own way.

There are a few beliefs that may be holding you back from finding the love you deserve.

1. You’re somehow broken. You think people who haven’t been scarred from life exist. You feel like a back sheep amongst everyone else.
2. You don’t deserve love. Because whatever you did in the past determines how you should be treated today; that you’re not a miraculous human being that deserves great things.
3. You’ll be hurt, just like before. You hold on to the notion that because one shitty person hurt you, everyone will hurt you.