6 Signs Someone is Emotionally Attracted to You

Because relationships aren’t just about physical attraction.

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Physical attraction is primal. To have someone be physically attracted to you feels great, sure. But it doesn’t say much about who you are, beyond your face symmetry and physique.

When it comes to love and relationships, our deepest desire is for someone to be emotionally attracted to us. Ego and sexual desire drive physical attraction but belonging and feeling understood drive emotional attraction.

With only physical attraction, you have lust. Add in emotional attraction, and you stand a chance at love.

But how do you know someone is emotionally attracted to you? How can you differentiate between someone caught up in the idea of who you are, based on your outer shell, and a person who sees all of you and wants more?

Well, the answer to that question is different for everyone. But, there are common signs you can begin looking out for if you’re wondering if someone is emotionally attracted to you.

They respect your opinions.

I’ve been in many relationships where my partners brushed aside my opinion as “silly” or “unimportant.” Reflecting on those relationships, I can now know that what held our relationship together wasn’t emotionally healthy.

When someone is emotionally attracted to you, your view of the world is alluring to them. They want to hear what’s in the crevices of your mind, even if what they find doesn’t align perfectly with their views.

Emotional attraction thrives off communication and revealing authentic parts of yourself. So if you do that and the other person wants to know more and more, that’s a great sign.

They actively keep you updated.

A great way to tell how much someone values your presence in their life is if they fill you in on all of the exciting (or, sometimes, not exciting) events that happen. They may send a quick text message to do so, but it’s the fact that they want to keep you updated that matters.

Think of it this way: if you received a new job promotion out of the blue, who do you tell first…