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Showing Your Cards When Dating
Hey Kirstie,
I’m 28, single, living abroad, and feel like I’m in way over my head. I recently started hanging out with this girl — of whom I was introduced through a mutual friend — and I’m scared I’m fucking it up.
She’s a great chick. We’re the same age and that’s pretty hard to find, given that we both live on a Caribbean island and the average age for foreigners here is 55.
We’ve been on several dates now. On one of them I went over to her place, which is her parent’s house, and we saw some puppies her family was fostering. Her step-mom ended up coming home early and I stuck around for dinner. I met her whole family and it was a lot of fun.
But yesterday, I had her come over to my place so I could cook dinner. I bragged about my chef skills and opted to make a chicken piccata for her. Well, it ended up taking four hours and I had to resort to Plan B which was grilled cheeses. That sucked but for some reason, I just felt totally off my game. I am known with my friends to be goofy and clumsy. I know for a fact myself that I am indeed goofy and clumsy. And I could tell how incredibly goofy and clumsy I was being with her. And I can’t help but think that she thinks I’m a weirdo.
She mentioned that she loved hanging out, that whenever it was silent with us, she always felt comfortable. She…
