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The Aftermath of Dating a Friend
I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s human nature to consider dating your friends. You enjoy their company. You admire their personality; their quirks and charms. All it takes is finding them a bit attractive to wonder if you guys could be something more.
Not to be cynical but the journey is more likely to end than it is to last forever. But the journey into something more can happen quite simply.
When you hang out with your group of friends, you notice how kind they are. The amount of energy they bring to the room; how much fun it is to be around them.
So you give it a try. You ask them to hang out alone. You get a chance to know them better as a person. The first date goes great, but it’s how you normally hangout, just with no one else there. You’re both unsure of the other’s feelings.
The second date comes and it’s more obvious what’s going on; you explore if there’s a connection. You kiss. More dates ensue.
Maybe it’s three dates. Maybe it’s a month. But eventually, you realize that for whatever reason, it’s not going to work. You’re just not connecting on that next level.
Now what?
Unless they’re a complete ass hat or have little emotional control, they’re not going to kick you to the curb; forgetting the friendship you had…
