I am in the same position. I am dating someone who lives in Puerto Rica while I am in Los Angeles. I recently had a conversation with another girl, in her 20’s as well, doing long-distance and she firmly responded that the situation works for her now.

And I couldn’t agree more. I am at the point in my life where I am creating a new career for myself. There is constantly something I could be doing — an article to write, a podcast to edit, or social media nonsense.

As for the man I am dating, he is running a private equity firm. Needless to say, he doesn’t have much free time.

But I love our situation. I know he cares, and he knows I think about him often. At the same time though, neither of us want to be distracted every day/night by the other. Sure, bingeing Netflix is fun and seems to be the typical millennial choice of bonding, but I would prefer to spend my time on me right now.

Plus, the distance allows us to appreciate our relationship for what it is at this phase. If we were dating in person, there would be more pressure to see each other throughout the week; we simply don’t have time for that.

So rather than constantly being a physical reminder of disappointment, we are able to live our lives the way we need to right now. And when we do finally chat or FaceTime, we have the best conversations.

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