I really appreciate you bringing this idea up. I felt like I didn’t do this article justice because I didn’t mention that calling someone pretty every now and then is ok. But that’s not the issue. You hit the nail on the head with this point. It’s placing someone into single categories. Worthiness is multifaceted and comes from more than just one aspect of a person. I completely understand how it could feel to have to 1. live up to the “being smart” reputation and 2. feel like you were never beautiful because no one ever said that to you.
Your pain is real too. I am glad you shared that.