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Stop Focusing On The Idea Of A Relationship
And start focusing on what really matters.
I read about love every single day.
I read books on theories, tweets about shitty dates, articles shelling out advice, and my Instagram feed filled with tales of heartaches and grand love.
But no matter what I read, no matter the context of the anecdote, I see a common theme.
People cling to the idea of a relationship.
And you might be thinking, how could the idea of a relationship possibly cause harm?
Well, let’s take a step back and really dissect what a romantic relationship is.
relationship
an emotional and sexual association between two people.
In the simplest sense of the term, it’s two people coming together. Whether that be to have sex or to be together until they’re playing bingo in a retirement center, it’s two people forming a symbiotic connection with one another.
But now, let’s focus on the committed kind of love.
People talk about marriage (please don’t click away, I’ll only talk about marriage for mere fragments of this article) like you’re giving up a…