The Key to Making Dating Hurt Less is Re-framing Rejection

Kirstie Taylor
3 min readFeb 15, 2023
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Have you ever taken someone ghosting you extremely personally? Has someone unmatched you on dating apps, and it felt like they were basically saying, “ew, why did I match with this person??”

If so, it means you’re human. We’re wired to dislike rejection. Back when survival was a top priority for our ancestors, acceptance from others meant the difference between fighting predators with a group and defending yourself solo.

Nowadays, most of the pain that comes with rejection is the meaning we create behind it. Or even the simple fact that we’re perceiving rejection where it may not be happening.

The beginning stages of dating can be confusing, hard, and vulnerable. Unless you’ve hit the jackpot, chances are, you’ll be going on more than one date in your life.

Endings come with the territory of dating. There’s no way around that. What you do have control over is re-framing your mindset around those endings.

I can’t stress enough that the talking stages of dating are all about seeing how compatible you are — that goes for both ends. If you’re on a third date with someone you feel no chemistry with, even if you think they’re great, it makes sense you’d stop seeing them romantically.



Kirstie Taylor

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